Your partner wants to marry you but you're not ready yet?

It was a bit odd running across an old friend in the internet and talking abruptly about life's worries and excitements. Odd because we were never close in the first place yet we seem to be very comfortable talking about our lives.

It has been long long time ago (now I'm storytelling...) that I have not been engaged into relationships and I was the one consoling somebody who seemed to be very good and expert at it. Again, odd, isn't it? Well, maybe it was made that way. Someone outside the relationship is able to see what's within the world of lovers. You seem to oversee what is happening unlike when you are enclosed in it.

I thought being single has given anxieties to people like us but won't it be more anxious when you're in the relationship and your partner is eager to marry you and yet you are not prepared yet? Well in these situations, women are the ones pushy in the relationship, afraid that as they lengthen the relationship they will end up separating. They think it's better to get marry to ensure the relationship will last.

I haven't been in that stage yet but talking with my friend, I realized, as a woman, we should not pressure our partners to marry us. I mean, men do not talk much. We thought what we are doing is ok but to them, it is worrying. To have a long relationship with someone does not guarantee that you will end up marrying. What is your purpose of marrying? Is it just to move to a higher level of the relationship because you have graduated from your teeny-boppy relationship or because you love this person and you want to spend your lifetime with him/her?

For me, it does not matter how long or short your relationship was for as long as you love, understand and respect each other, it is enough to decide for a lifetime relationship. And add to that, the capacity to live and provide your family in all aspects: physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially. If you just got pressured of marrying someone because you stayed long in a relationship, chances are you'll get bored and find something more than the usual. If you love your partner and yet not prepared to marry, then give yourself a time to talk with yourself or take time to distant a bit from your partner and find yourself. Meet a lot of friends along and wander yourself into a vast space. When you feel you are tired, come back to your significant someone and decide. When you finally got the answers and soothed yourself, be sure you do not left your relationship hanging so as not to hurt him/her.

Life is not easy and marriage isn't a game where you call for a time-out. Seek what contents you then start a life.

Well, all these are just my opinions. If you are a guy and your partner wants you to get married but you are not ready yet, what will you do?